How to Tell if a Shy Girl Likes You?

Today I’ll show you how to know if a shy girl likes you so that you’re able to notice all the necessary signs. And accurately tell when these shy women want you.

This topic is quite important if you are running into shy women often and can’t tell if they are interested in you or not. Because wondering stuff like “Is she shy or not interested in me?” has killed more relationship opportunities than I can count. Mostly, by preventing guys from approaching and talking to these women in the first place!

So, if you’re interested in learning all the signs that a shy girl likes you and then using them to chat her up, you’re in the right place!

how to tell if a shy girl likes you

How To Know When shy girls are interested in you?

Obviously, there are a lot of shy women in the world, just as there are a lot of shy guys.

In fact, I run into several girls who are shy pretty much each time when I go out. I used to struggle a lot with telling whether they liked me or not until I figured out what signs I had to look out for. I would end up ignoring them because I thought they weren’t interested in me at all. Or I wouldn’t even think twice when they showed subtle signs of interest so it usually went over my head.

But once I did figure out what signs to look out for in shy women, my results with them changed drastically. I stopped hesitating because I saw that some of these girls were very interested in me. After that, I could just approach these women, talk to them and have everything turn out fine in the end.

Note: This article will be a continuation of sorts of the one about signs that a girl likes you in general. While that article is very useful, it won’t help you with how to tell if a shy girl likes you because it’s about signs that women show in general when they’re interested in you. Even though some of these signs will be very similar.

That said, let’s tackle the issue of shy women straight away.

How do you know if a shy girl likes you?

Simple, you make an effort to notice her reactions and the way she behaves around you.

While that does indeed sound simple, it’s definitely not easy.

Because noticing all the signs a shy girl likes you; body language, facial expressions and other mannerisms takes a bit of experience and learning. It also requires you to be perceptive and in the moment. And even if you do eventually learn how to tell if a shy girl likes you, it’s going to take some practice because a lot of these signs are incredibly subtle.

But don’t worry because right after my next big point, I’ll show you exactly how to know when a shy girl likes you below and tell you the things that you need to look out for:

You have to be present in the moment when you’re talking to women, to notice most of these signs.

This is a HUGE sticking point that many guys have when talking with women and I want to bring attention to it.

A lot of guys talk to women but they aren’t ACTIVELY listening to what they’re saying. Because they’re busy trying to “think of what to say next.” They also don’t even take the time to LOOK at the girl they’re talking to. You have to OBSERVE a woman and look at her to take in the sights and notice her facial expressions, body language, mannerisms and so on. Because of that, these guys get stuck in their heads too much and end up missing most or all of the signs that women show them. And because of that, the conversation becomes anything but engaging and may even turn slightly awkward.

So, before I talk about how to tell if a shy girl likes you and explain if she is shy or not interested in you, I’ll give you a little secret to my success with women:


This little trick will help you a lot with women. More than you realize. It’s one of the reasons why bad boys and players know how to get laid a ton.

be present when talking to women

If you’re not being present, you’re going to fuck up because you’re going to be stuck in your own head. Trying to figure out “if this is the right move” or “should I say that or shouldn’t I?”, or anything similar effectively prevents you from hearing what she’s saying to you. This causes you to disregard or simply not notice tons of useful signs that a shy girl likes you. Even if those signs aren’t that subtle because you can’t concentrate on her if you’re all in your head.

Believe me, we’ve all had these moments of stress when there are simply too many thoughts going through our mind. How are you supposed to even hear and understand the other person if you can’t quiet it down and stop the incessant barrage of thoughts? Think about that. And next time you’re talking to women, slow the fuck down and talk to them like they’re regular human beings and not some creatures from another planet.

You can’t predict what women are going to say to you. So getting stuck in your own head playing out the various scenarios and the things you could say next or plotting your next “move” is completely detrimental to your success.

Now that we’re done with this important little tidbit, I’ll tell you how to know if a shy girl likes you and show you what signs to look out for.

signs a shy girl likes you

The biggest and most important signs a shy girl likes you are her body language, facial expression, the tone of her voice and eye contact. Also, her demeanor, how you vibe with her and how she acts and speaks to you or when around you is pretty important. I’ll tackle each and every one of them and explain in greater depth how you can use them to your advantage.

Shy female body language

When a shy girl likes you, her body language subconsciously changes.

Most of the time, a shy girl who likes you will tense up when she’s around you.

That’s because she either doesn’t want to show you that she likes you. Or because she just can’t control herself and relax around you.

Knowing this, it’s just a matter of noticing if a woman who you think is shy becomes somewhat tense when she’s in your presence. As if she’s a bit afraid of you or simply can’t handle the excitement.

She may even look slightly agitated or even uncomfortable. She may start touching and playing with her hair a lot, to either calm herself or divert attention. This is usually done completely subconsciously as well.

With experience, shy female body language is pretty easy to spot.

When you notice such things, you can take it as a good sign because your presence affects her somehow. This is a great thing because when someone is indifferent to you their body language will not be affected by you in any way. They simply don’t care enough for your presence to affect them. Unless they hate you, then it’s going to be a very negative reaction.

Mirroring your actions is also a big sign and it’s not even that subtle. When people like someone, they often do this without even noticing.

So, when trying to figure out signs a shy girl likes you, body language that’s tense is a dead giveaway. When you see that, just chat her up and see what’s up and how she responds. There’s no reason not to say “Hi!” and see how she’s doing. Unless, of course, she has a real reason to be tense around you because you’re a maniac 😉

Finally, there’s the issue of touch. When people like someone, they want to touch them. So, notice if the girl who you think is shy is somehow trying to touch you. Whether it’s happening during a conversation with you or if seemingly by accident when passing you by. Any and all touch from women, unless obviously unintentional or of professional and platonic courtesy, are not accidents and show interest.

Touch is one of the most important things in attraction and seduction. So pay attention if shy women either go out of their way to touch you or do so as if by accident.

How can you tell when a shy girl likes you?

Pay attention to facial expressions

When a shy girl or woman likes you, her face will tell you all sorts of things that she herself otherwise wouldn’t.

First of all, notice if there’s any blushing. That’s a dead giveaway right there. It’s an involuntary reaction and people can’t control it. But if they’re flushed with emotions and like you, their face will blush and become red.

Notice if she’s smiling when she does this because that’s a great sign that she likes you as well. Especially if it’s a huge grin that she just can’t seem to put away.

There should be no sign of aversion or negativity on her face when she’s around you or talking to you. She may even look slightly confused but that’s nothing to worry about. Because if she’s being overwhelmed by her emotions regarding you and is too shy to show them, she may look a bit lost.

Eye contact is a huge sign a shy girl likes you

Another great sign of how to know if a shy girl likes you is what she does with her eyes.

Is she shy or not interested? Well, if she’s constantly averting her eyes as soon as yours meet them, looks down submissively and then blushes or smiles — Then she’s definitely very interested in you.

Eye contact is very powerful when it comes to women and seduction. It betrays a lot of things about any person and you should pay attention to it.

Shy women will want to maintain eye contact with you, but they’re often just too emotional or afraid of what may happen. If they do, they won’t be able to hold it for very long. That’s why they’ll avert their eyes, look away or try to take peeks at you while you aren’t looking. I’ve noticed that this is particularly exaggerated in Asian women but it’s still a universal sign that a shy girl likes you.

Also, eye contact will often determine who’s the more dominant and who’s the submissive person. And since shy people are mostly submissive by nature until they deal with their shyness, they’ll usually avert their eyes first. Or they won’t even want to make eye contact in the first place

Also, take notice if a shy girl is looking more at your lips than at your eyes. That’s a huge sign of attraction.

Finally, people will usually smile with their eyes when they like you. That’s, of course, pretty vague and difficult to notice. But I’m sure you can tell the difference between a very sincere smile and a fake one.

Take notice of these cues when trying to figure out if she is shy or not interested in you at all.

The tone of her voice

When most women are around someone who they like, more often than not their voice will become more high-pitched. It’ll usually become more girly, sensual and soft. This is particularly pronounced when women are actively flirting with men. But many do it completely subconsciously, without even noticing. But the fact remains, voices change in pitch when people flirt, researchers say.

In any case, the tone of someone’s voice is a huge deal in seduction. It can betray a lot about the thoughts and feelings that a person has. Also, if a woman is very submissive, most of her sentences will sound like questions because they’ll have an upward inflection at the end. That’s another good sign that a shy girl likes you because it shows that she thinks you’re more dominant than her.

When you notice this, feel free to think that she’s affected by your presence and chat her up further.

Is she shy or not interested? Notice her Vibe and Demeanor

“Vibe” is a huge thing in dating and relationships. How well you vibe with someone will determine how quickly you connect, how successfully you flirt and how well someone will perceive you.

I’m not going to go into a lot of detail about this because I’ve already written a whole separate article on it. Go read about The Importance of Presence and Only Good, Positive Vibes in Dating and Relationships!

Regarding her demeanor, it will usually change drastically when you’re around. If she likes you and is too shy to show it, she may even talk to everyone but you.

This happens often at a party or some type of gathering. Notice if she’s talking with everyone in a room except you. And if once you approach her, her demeanor instantly changes and she becomes flustered.

It’s a huge sign of attraction if a girl obviously behaves very differently around you than around everyone else. As long as it’s a positive change in behavior and not a negative one.

Incidentally, be sure to read this if you want to know how to get laid at a party and why most guys don’t. And also some tips on how to be social at a party.

Watch her actions and words

If you want to figure out how to know if a shy girl likes you, you have to pay attention to her actions and words.

is she interested or not?

There are many things you can notice. For example, if she laughs at all your jokes and becomes incredibly talkative because she’s nervous around you.

Another example would be when she seems very intimidated when you show her some direct attention. This can manifest itself in many different ways. She may start fidgeting, turn red in the face, become very preoccupied with her looks, etc. These are basic signs of nervousness and you should take the time to notice them. It’s also a HUGE sign that a shy girl likes you if all of this happens only once you approach her.

Also, when a shy girl makes a point of complimenting you, either on your looks or something about you as a person, that’s a massive sign of interest.

Another one would be when she’s playfully teasing you. That mostly means that she really wants to flirt with you but for one reason or another doesn’t want to make it seem too obvious.

If you know her from your social circle, work, school or anywhere else and you see her often, she may often ask you to help her with various seemingly insignificant tasks. Tasks that she doesn’t really need that much help with but still asks you. That just means that she enjoys your company and wants to hang around you as much as she can. During these tasks, notice if she keeps touching you accidentally or on purpose. Also if she starts putting more makeup for when you meet and makes herself pretty for you during these occasions.

Another sign you need to be aware of when learning how to tell if a shy girl that you already know likes you is how often she texts you or messages you on social media. If she often starts the conversation first and her texts and messages never stop, you’ll know that she’s really into you. You won’t have to worry about stuff like “How often should I text her?” or even about texting her every day. Because she’ll be absolutely delighted by the attention if you do.

Finally, a shy girl’s friends are a dead giveaway. They may start whispering or giggling once you pass them by, which means they’re talking about you. They may also begin openly teasing you because they know their friend likes you. Take note of that because it’s a massive sign whether a shy girl likes you in school, high-school, community college or university.

Conclusion on shy girls and figuring out when they like you

So what do you do when you notice all these signs that a shy girl is into you and likes you?

Easy, you talk to her, try to have a fun, interesting or exciting conversation. And then you ask her out. This is pretty much what you do with other women as well.

That said, you should know that things should play out a little bit differently.

For example, you’ll have to lead the conversation more than you would with women who aren’t that shy. You’ll also have to let a shy girl warm up to you gradually and don’t take things too far too fast. Because going in very directly and in an intense manner might spook her or freak her out. 

Eventually, tell her you like her and that you enjoy talking to her. Compliment her if you notice something genuine about her that you like. Shy women are often self-conscious of their looks as well, so give her a genuine compliment about something that you like regarding her looks.

Finally, ask her out in a casual way. Ease into it and say that you’ve had a great time talking to her and that you should go grab a coffee sometime during the week. Then say that you want to exchange numbers. And that’s a done deal if you’ve both enjoyed each other’s company up to this point. For more tips, here are articles on how to ask a girl out, and also a great one about 5 direct and cute ways to ask a girl out on a date.

Then, it’s all about learning how to have a successful first date and creating sexual tension so you can sleep together.

So, I hope you found this article about how to know and tell if a shy girl likes you useful. I also hope that now you won’t have to ask yourself questions like “Is she shy or not interested in me?” anymore. Because when you learn all these important signs that a shy girl likes you and use them to your advantage, you’ll be able to get many more dates with women.

When you finally do get those dates, make sure you know what to do to consistently get laid on a date so that you can start as many casual or serious relationships with women as you want.

Comment below with your thoughts and experiences and let’s discuss this topic.



saulisdating Written by:

Andrius Saulis has over 15 years of extensive hands-on experience and expertise in the field of Dating, Seduction, Relationships and Social Dynamics. He's helping men all around the world get rid of their insecurities, regain their high self-esteem and confidence, and become successful with women. He teaches men how to attract and seduce women not through manipulative tactics, but by being their genuine, authentic and charming selves, while exuding a flirty, confident and sexy vibe that women can't get enough of. Learn how to have a flawless first date with The Saulis Dating Guide to get as many serious or casual relationships as you want.

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