How often should I text her? Should you text a girl everyday?

You know, two of the most frequent questions I get from guys who are getting numbers from girls are: “How often should I text her?”, and “Should you text a girl everyday?”

Well, how often should you text a girl you like depends entirely on where in the interaction you currently are. For example, if you haven’t even been on a first date together, then you should not text her much at all. In this case, you should only text her to SET UP THE DATE, and not to chat.

That’s because she still doesn’t know you that well and doesn’t know your personality. So, if you’re going to chat with her through text – a medium where you can’t express emotions – there are going to be plenty of opportunities for you to screw up and for her to misunderstand you. Because of that,  you’re most likely going to end up without a date at all!

However, if you’ve already been on the first date and you both had fun and slept together, then you shouldn’t even be asking whether you should text a girl every day because you’re then free to send her messages as much as you want! That’s because she already spent time with you, enjoyed your personality, saw your sense of humor and has been intimate with you. So there won’t be many ways you could screw it up from there by sending an SMS.

Now let’s talk about some texting rules for guys and texting rules for dating in general that you should know about if you want to increase your chances of success with women by a lot!

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Texting in Early Stages of Dating: Should I text her everyday or not?

Let’s get one thing straight right off the bat – if you’re going to text someone every day, you will eventually both get bored of that.

It’s only great to text someone every day – particularly if it’s a girl you like – if there is no way for you to meet in person. Which means that texting someone every day is best left for long distance relationships, while you’re on a trip, out of town, or under similar circumstances.

Why? Because if you have a chance to meet face to face – you should ALWAYS choose that option over texting, phoning, or anything else!

Face to face is where the magic happens. It’s the only way for you to really attract and seduce the girl and then sleep with her. So, why would you even try to convey your emotions and interest in her through texting? It’s a medium where you can’t showcase your sense of humor at all because there’s no way for her to see your facial expressions. She also can’t hear your tone of voice, notice your gestures and eyes, and there’s no way for her to feel your physical touch. That won’t get you anywhere near your goals with the girl!

Plus, if you or I text her every day, she’ll be more likely to become a FRIEND rather than a LOVER. That’s because she’ll be so used to your attention and your time talking with her that there won’t be much sexual tension at all when you meet unless you’re a master at creating sexual tension through text and can make her horny and eager to meet you. In fact, why would she even want to meet you when she can get all the validation and attention she desires from you at the touch of a button?

Unfortunately, not many guys are masters at creating sexual tension through texting since it takes a lot of practice to be able to create lots of it and also be interesting through your SMS messages. And that’s why, if you’re wondering how to seduce a girl over text, I’d advise you to meet her in person instead. Because it’s far easier to accomplish all of that when you’re face to face and not while you’re texting her on the phone.


Incidentally, I’ll eventually write a separate article on how to seduce a girl over text and make her horny and eager to meet you and sleep with you at some later time. But for now, I simply advise you do this in person because this is very advanced stuff for people who already enjoy great success.

Now, let’s talk about texting in the early stages of dating, and answer whether you should be texting her every day, or not.

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Should I text her everyday?

The answer is a resounding NO! If you do this, it may seem to her that you have nothing much going on in your life apart from her. It can often seem needy and desperate.

If you’re already used to send texts every day, then not texting her for a day can make a whole world of difference. That’s because she’ll wonder why you suddenly stopped and will most likely start texting you herself and then begin chasing you.

Actually, not texting a girl for a day or two is a very powerful tactic which builds a lot of anticipation. That anticipation later turns into attraction and is one of the best ways to make women chase you.

And that’s my biggest advice to most guys who want to learn the texting rules for dating – DON’T OVERDO IT! Too much of anything is a bad thing, and too much of texting will seem needy and desperate. Show her that you don’t think about her that often and exude the abundance mentality with women. She’ll often find you much more attractive because of that. In fact, it’s one of the reasons why women find bad boys so attractive.

You should only text a girl every day if you’re already dating a lot, sleeping together a lot or are boyfriend and girlfriend, or at least friends with benefits. Then there’s absolutely no reason to not do it if you both enjoy it and find it very engaging.

For anyone else – TONE IT DOWN and don’t text often at all and stop wondering about “How often should I text her?” so much. Because that will only cause you tons of unnecessary worry. Seriously, your chances will increase MORE, the LESS you contact her because it will show that you’re a busy guy who has other cool stuff going on in your life and that you don’t just sit at your phone thinking about her all day like someone who has no better things to do! If you do things like this, she’ll be much more eager to get to know you during your date and will show you many signs that she likes you and wants you to make a move on her.

Personally, I only text girls to set up dates, and then to set up further dates. I don’t text to chat or talk because I know that it most likely can’t lead to anything fruitful unless my goal is to simply chat with her and kill some time. Or to make a new platonic friend and not a lover. But, if I want to meet her, seduce her, and then sleep with her, I’ll only text the necessary few lines to set up our date. Then, once on the date, I’ll focus on doing my thing; having fun, teasing her, spiking her emotions, connecting with her, creating sexual tension, and then sleeping with her. This will increase my chances of success significantly more than if we were texting all day. Because if you text a girl every day, she’ll start developing more platonic and friendly feelings towards you than experiencing sexual tension and wanting to be your lover.

To recap: if you want more consistent success, stop texting her every day and instead focus on setting up a date with her as fast as you can. And if you’ve already gone down the rabbit hole and are constantly texting some girl you like, then remember that not texting her for a day or two, or even more, can do wonders for your situation. That’s because she’ll start wondering what’s happened to you all of a sudden and will become intrigued as to what you think of her. After she contacts you, say something like “Hey, I’d rather meet in person and tell you all about it! When are you free?” And bam – more likely than not, you’ll have yourself a date!

How often should I text her if she’s always busy?

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Well, if you keep texting her and she always says she’s too busy to meet you, then I’d suggest you go on with your life and start meeting other girls.

That’s because when a girl constantly keeps telling you that she’s “busy”, it means that she doesn’t want to meet you all that much or at all. Because if she really wanted to meet you, she would FIND the time as that would be in her best interest. And, as it stands now, if she’s always “too busy” for you, then it means that meeting you is at the bottom of her list of priorities.

In this case, if you text a girl like that every day, she’ll eventually see that you’re too desperate and she’ll either ghost or block you because you’re annoying.

So, what I usually do in this situation if I wonder whether I should text her every day or not, especially if she’s busy, is this:

I’ll ask her out through text, and see what she has to say. Then, if it’s a negative reply, I’ll completely forget all about her and go on with my life. I’ll meet other women and will only text her like once every week or two when I remember her to see if she’s interested or not. If she is interested, then that’s great and we set up that date. If she isn’t – I simply move on and maybe text her again in a couple of weeks or a month. This is the best way to save yourself from tons of worry and mental anguish because it’s obvious she wasn’t that interested in you, to begin with.

However, how busy or not she will be for you will depend entirely on your interaction PRIOR to you getting her number. That’s because getting numbers is fairly easy, but having the girls REMEMBER you and WANT to meet you afterward – that’s the most difficult part! To learn how to have girls consistently remember you when you get their numbers, make sure to read how to get a girl’s number and have her want to meet you later for a date!

Conclusion – How often should you text a girl you like?

As often as is only necessary to set up a date, unless you’ve already slept with her. In which case you can text her as much as you like since you obviously both already like and enjoy each other.

Here are some other relevant articles:

5 direct and cute ways to ask a girl out on a date – and why lines don’t matter!

How to pass any and all shit tests that women throw at you

How to Get Laid at a Party and Why Most Guys Don’t

How to Tease a Girl and Why Teasing on Dates is Massively Important!

The Main Attractive Character Traits That Make Men Irresistible to Women!

As you can see – the less texting you do, the more consistent success you’ll see. That’s because most girls think that if a guy texts them everyday, he’s too boring and doesn’t have other things to do. It’s also very needy and reeks of desperation unless you’re already great friends. And even if the girl doesn’t think all these negative things, texting her every day will more often than not result in you being FRIEND ZONED, because that’s what platonic, non-sexual friends do. They talk to one another all the time, which results in zero sexual tension, zero anticipation, zero sexual attraction, and mystery. And you want her to be your lover and not a friend, right?.

So, you’ve now been warned about these crucial texting rules for guys when dating. Text LESS, to get MORE results! Text only to set up the dates, and not to chat!

Finally, when you set up that date, do you know what you have to do for it to go well so that you can start either a serious or casual friends-with-benefits relationship with the girl? If not, then CLICK HERE if you want to learn how to consistently get laid on the first date and get her to WANT to be either your girlfriend or fuckbuddy.

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