8 Telltale Signs of Sexual Tension With Real World Examples

Today I’m going to talk about the main signs of sexual tension and chemistry between people.

This is an essential component of seduction you need to understand if you want to be successful with women.

Whether it’s a romantic relationship or a casual hookup, both parties need to feel a certain level of sexual tension and chemistry for the experience to be enjoyable and satisfying. Because without any, things won’t naturally progress towards sex and intimacy.

Understanding these main sexual tension signs will help you figure out if there’s any potential for a successful short term fling. Or even a long term relationship with someone.

I’m also going to go over some sexual tension examples below, in detail. So you know what you’re doing and what to look out for next time you’re in a conversation with a woman you’re interested in.

Knowing The Signs Of Sexual Tension Will Lead To More Successful Dates

Honestly, knowing all the main signs of sexual tension is almost like a superpower. And knowing how to create sexual tension is a must for anyone who wants to be a great seducer.

Other than that, noticing the signs there’s some kind of spark between you and the girl you’re interested in is incredibly important as well. Because once you notice her show any of the sexual chemistry signs we’re about to discuss, then you’re going to have a much easier time flirting with her, making her horny and then sleeping with her. Since you’ll be positively sure she already likes you and is thinking about sleeping with you herself.

So without further ado, let’s dive in straight into the sexual tension examples, along with the signs they present.

The most obvious sign of sexual tension – physical contact

One of the most well-known signs of sexual tension and chemistry is physical contact.

This can be anything from a light touch on the arm to a full-blown embrace. The key, however, is that the physical contact must be intentional and deliberate. And not just a random occurrence where you two randomly bump into each other.

So if the two of you are touching each other frequently and in an intimate manner. Then it’s a great sign there’s a strong level of sexual tension and chemistry going on.

That’s why you should make an effort to consciously notice how often the women around you touch you. Especially if the touch is anything but friendly and instead sensual. Because physical touch is key to arousing women.

For example, if you’re often interacting with some girl at work, school or college and she keeps touching you on the arm gently. Or if she brushes against you often, or gives you a few playful nudges. Then it’s a pretty good sign that she’s feeling some sexual chemistry and wants you to notice her behavior.

Prolonged eye contact

Eye contact is an incredibly powerful tool in any human interaction. And in seduction, it’s one of the most sexy things you can do, if you do it right.

It conveys so much non-verbal communication to the other person that they often instantly see what you’re all about.

More importantly, when two people are attracted to each other, they’ll often engage in prolonged eye contact. This can be anything from a subtle gaze to a deep, lingering stare.

Also, the longer the eye contact lasts, the stronger the level of sexual tension and chemistry becomes between the two.

For example, a huge sign of sexual tension is intense staring. When a girl looks deeply into your eyes, as if trying to see into your soul. This often creates a sense of vulnerability and can heighten the mutual sexual chemistry.

Another example would be what’s called eye flirting. When someone playfully glances at the other, breaks eye contact and then reestablishes it. This creates a back and forth dynamic that builds sexy tension between them.

There’s also a type of prolonged eye contact called a smoldering gaze. It’s when you look at the other person with a smoldering gaze, full of desire and longing. And it can be incredibly effective at creating and conveying sexual tension between two people.

Finally, locking eyes and holding your gaze is a display of dominance. If the girl looks away first, you’re the more dominant person and that also creates some erotic tension.

signs of sexual tension between a man and a woman at a park


Flirtatious body language is one of the best sexual chemistry signs

To understand the art of flirting better, you need to learn how flirtatious body language works. And why it’s crucial to creating intimate tension.

This can be really simple, like flirting with a smile or tilting your head coily. To something more obvious like touching your hair or clothes.

Make sure to always pay attention to the body language of the person you’re interacting with. Because it’ll provide you with valuable insights into their level of sexual interest. As well as how much sexual tension there is between you two.

For example, when you’re in a nightclub or bar, leaning in towards the other person while talking to them indicates interest. And if they already like you back, it creates a sense of intimacy, increasing sexual tension.

Another example would be mirroring the other person’s movements. Such as crossing your legs when they do or tilting your head in the same direction. This indicates you’re in sync with them and if they already like you, it can often create a little bit of sexual intrigue.

One more example would be running your fingers through your hair or tossing it while looking at the girl you’re interested in. It’s a playful, flirty gesture that creates a little flirtatious sexual energy.

All of these signs of sexual tension enhance the interaction and build it little by little. So notice when someone does them to you and you’ll know they’re interested in you as more than a friend.

Sexual tension examples: sexual innuendo

Clever use of sexual innuendo can put the existing sexual tension between two people into overdrive. As it’s one of the most powerful sexual chemistry signs and tools that exist.

This can be anything from a suggestive comment or a flirtatious joke. As well as misinterpreting something the girl said. To a more obvious reference to sexual activities, without actually being direct about it.

If the two of you are engaging in sexual innuendo, it’s a good sign that there’s a strong level of sexual tension and chemistry going on.

Basically, sexual innuendo is a subtle sexual remark or action that’s intended to be humorous or suggestive, but does not explicitly mention sex. It adds a touch of humor and playfulness, but in a really sexy way.

It can even be something entirely silly, as long as there’s a sexual undertone. Something like “Are you a magician? Because every time I look at you, everyone else disappears.”

Or “Is it hot in here or is it just you?”

Although a more masterful example would be to misinterpret something she says. Like if she’s tired and says she wants to go to bed. And you replying with something like “You want to go straight to bed? At least buy me dinner first” with a cheeky grin.

That said, it’s crucial to remember that the key to using sexual innuendo effectively is to be playful and lighthearted. Without crossing the line into crudeness or obscenity.

Sexy Teasing and Playfulness

Some of the best sexual tension examples would be flirtatious teasing and being playful but in a sexy way.

As the level of sexual tension and chemistry increases, so too will the level of playfulness between the two of you.

This can be anything from playful teasing to more overt flirting. The key is that the playfulness is consistent and ongoing, and not just a one-time occurrence.

I’ve already written a huge, in-depth article on teasing and why it’s one of the best things you can do during your dates. It’s one of my secret weapons in fact, so go read that post!

It’s safe to say that playful teasing with sexy undertones between a man and a woman is one of the biggest sexual tension signs ever.

Intense Focus

When two people are sexually attracted to each other, they will often focus their attention solely on one another.

The focus is so intense, it’s like you’re both in a private bubble and everything else around you disappears. You stop hearing anything that’s outside the bubble.

When you’re in that bubble, time appears to almost stop moving. You’re both so engrossed in each other and are eagerly hanging on to each other’s words.

If you do this right, it’s like you’re in sync with each other, deeply connected. This builds a massive amount of rapport as well as sexual chemistry.

The key to achieving this state is to ground yourself completely and become fully present in the moment. Giving her your undivided attention and enjoying the experience.

Intense focus can make you both feel like you’ve known each other forever and are meant for each other. It’s pretty amazing once this happens, even though it’s pretty rare.

Increased vocal tones, changes in voice

As the level of sexual tension and chemistry increases, so too will the tone and volume of the person’s voice who’s experiencing it. That’s because sexual tension affects people emotionally.

This happens subconsciously and people are often completely unaware of the effect.

Women’s voices sually become higher in pitch, more feminine and more sensual. The tonality of the voice becomes more soothing and sweet.

For men, their voices often become lower, with more emotion and inflection. More hypnotic, smoky, sexy and rich. From a soft, sultry voice to a more intense, passionate tone.

It’s pretty difficult to describe and obviously it will be different for many people. But you’ll definitely notice it when you see it.

Final Thoughts

Now you know all the main sexual tension signs worth talking about.

There are obviously some more to talk about, but these are a good start point for anyone interesting in seduction and having better dates.

As with everything, you’re going to have to make a conscious effort to notice them in your interactions with women.

At first, some of these will be somewhat difficult to spot. But eventually, you’ll be able to see them coming from a mile away. And that’ll help you gauge the interest of the women around you. And that’s really great, because some of them will find you attractive and you’ll be able to tell which ones much easier than before.

As always, thanks for reading!


saulisdating Written by:

Andrius Saulis has over 15 years of extensive hands-on experience and expertise in the field of Dating, Seduction, Relationships and Social Dynamics. He's helping men all around the world get rid of their insecurities, regain their high self-esteem and confidence, and become successful with women. He teaches men how to attract and seduce women not through manipulative tactics, but by being their genuine, authentic and charming selves, while exuding a flirty, confident and sexy vibe that women can't get enough of. Learn how to have a flawless first date with The Saulis Dating Guide to get as many serious or casual relationships as you want.

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