Today I’m going to talk about all the best things to say to your crush so she’ll like you and want to go on a date with you. Or even hook up with you, become your lover, friend with benefits, or girlfriend.
This topic is for both men and women. But since I focus more on dating and seduction advice for men, I’ll mostly give you tips about what you can say to your girl crush so she wants you.
Fact is, plenty of people get a crush on someone but don’t do anything about it. They either just stare at their crush and imagine all the good things that could happen between you. Or fantasize about them making the move first, only to miss their opportunity because someone else asks them out on a date.
However, if you want to be happy and successful in life, you have to do everything yourself. You have to take matters into your own hands and go for what you want. Or someone else will go after your crush and she will eventually become unavailable.
So what do you say to your crush to get her attention? Read on to find out how to get a date with your crush.
Also, make sure to read to the end as I also reveal some crucial things you need to avoid. So you don’t scare off your crush and ruin your chances with her forever.
Table of Contents
- 1 Direct Things To Say To Your Crush To Get A Date With Her
- 2 Indirect Ways To Get Your Crushes Attention
Direct Things To Say To Your Crush To Get A Date With Her
First of all, depending on your social skills and how charismatic, charming and ANXIOUS you are, you need to decide whether you’ll be going in with direct intent. Or if you’ll want to approach and try to charm her indirectly. Which is a much safer but significantly longer way to do things.
So if you’re wondering if it’s better to be direct or indirect with women, make sure you know what you’re doing before you even approach by reading my article on this topic.
That’s because what you say to your crush and how you should behave around her will depend on if you want to be direct about your intentions or not. Sometimes it’s much better to be direct, especially if you’re confident enough. But other times an indirect approach will be necessary, especially if she’s always surrounded by friends, family, co-workers, etc.
So let’s start with all the direct things to say to your crush to ask her out.
Most of them start with something as simple as:
- “I can’t help but notice you.”
- “There’s something about you that never fails to catch my eye.”
- “I keep finding myself drawn to you.”
- “You always seem to get my attention somehow.”
- “I don’t know why but I keep looking at you when you pass me by.”
When your crush doesn’t know you
Let’s assume you have a crush on a girl who doesn’t know you.
Let’s also say you’re confident enough about your social skills and you’re a pretty social and decently charismatic guy. Then I suggest you be direct with your crush and simply tell her you like her.
“Hey, I’ve noticed you around here and I really like your style. I think we’d have a lot of fun getting to know each other and I’d like to take you out.”
Change “I really like your style” to whatever else that’s special about her that catches your eye. Because the more personal you make it, the better the outcome will be.
Saying something like that to your crush will show her many good things about you. Most importantly that you go for what you want and that you’re not afraid to tell girls you like them.
As long as you have solid body language, smile, don’t sound nervous or unsure of yourself and don’t fumble the delivery, this will work fine the vast majority of the time. Then she’ll take it or leave it. But if she likes you or finds you attractive even at least somewhat. Then she’ll definitely entertain the thought of going out with you.
“Hey, you got a second?” while beckoning her to come closer. “I gotta be honest with you, I keep seeing you around here and there’s something about you that catches my eye and I can’t really put a finger on it yet. You seem pretty cool (fun/interesting/whatever else you notice about her) so I’d like to take you out for drinks (coffee/ice-cream/whatever). If you’re single, of course. How does Friday next week sound?”
Saying this is a pretty decent way to get your crush to go out with you.
Here’s what to say when your crush already knows you
Now let’s assume you both know each other already.
For example, you attend the same school, are co-workers, or have the same class or hobbies. Maybe she’s even a neighbor or you know her from somewhere else. And you occasionally pass each other by and sometimes even chat for one reason or another.
Since you see each other and even talk sometimes, you should say something to her that you like about her.
Notice what she likes, what hobbies she has, the way she behaves, something about her personality. Or something about her style, the way she looks that’s specific and not generic, her clothes, accessories, etc. And then comment on it.
Basically, don’t just walk up to her and say something basic and generic. Like “Hey I think you’re hot” or cute or whatever. Because she already hears this from all the other guys who approach her and want to pick her up.
Be different by being more specific, and compliment your crush with some detail that you GENUINELY like about her.
“Hey Jenny, I’ve been meaning to tell you this for a little while. I really like how confident you are around your friends and even strangers. That’s something I admire in people [because of reasons].”
Complimenting a girl like that is much more attractive than giving her a generic compliment. And learning how to tell a girl she is beautiful without being creepy is a useful social skill to have.
The above is just one example of what to tell your crush to get her interested in you.
Replace “I really like how confident you are” with something like “I really like how you wear all these colorful outfits all the time. It takes a lot of courage to own your style and not be afraid of what others think of you.”
Think of your own reason why you like her and TELL her about it. As these types of compliments are among the best things to say to your crush so she likes you.
How to get a date with your crush
After you tell her something similar to the above, you’ll want to continue the conversation and eventually ask her out.
Again, you don’t have to over-complicate things if your goal is to be direct.
Let’s assume you and your crush are in some kind of music class. One day you meet her outside the classroom and engage in some small talk.
“Lisa, I wanted to tell you how much I enjoy your singing. I think you’ve got one of the most lovely singing voices I’ve heard. And I watch a lot of singers on YouTube, so I know a good voice when I hear one!” .All while smiling and cracking a laugh when saying the youtube part, since it’s cheeky.
Again, that would be the specific compliment part.
She’ll say something like “Thank you!” or blush. Or even become speechless by an incredibly sincere and specific compliment like that.
Then you follow up with a simple: “By the way, I also think you’re pretty great besides your singing. And I’d like to get to know you better. How does coffee tomorrow after class sound?”
Basically, to maximize your chances of getting a date with your crush, you start with a specific compliment or two. But don’t overdo it, because it might seem like you’re trying way too hard to get her to like you.
Then, you follow up by asking her out. In a way that implies you like her for more than just her looks. Or that specific thing you notice about her. “But I like you for more than that.”
Saying “I’d like to get to know you better” is a wonderful way to do so. And it’s a proven way to ask someone out that actually works better than a generic “I like you, wanna go out?”
Indirect Ways To Get Your Crushes Attention
So what if you have a crush on a girl but can’t really approach her in a direct way. To tell her you find her attractive and that you want to go on a date with her.
For example, you might only see her when she’s surrounded by friends. Or class mates, or co-workers. Or even her family and next of kin, if you see her at various family events where she’s never alone.
What do you do then? Because going up to her and giving her an obvious compliment and asking her out might often embarrass her.
What about if it’s INAPPROPRIATE to ask her out because you both work together? Your co-workers might start thinking less of her if she seems flirty or slutty with men.
Fact is, there are plenty of times when it’s just not suitable to go up to a person and try to seduce them directly. For many different reasons.
So you need to know how to be subtle about it. By learning things to say to your crush that subtly imply your interest. And then by flirting with her covertly so she wants to go somewhere more private with you. Where you can talk to her without prying eyes from other people.
How can I impress my crush in words?
Now let’s talk about how to impress your crush with words.
First of all, one of the best things you can do is tell your crush what you appreciate about them.
This won’t really be a direct compliment. So people around you who might be listening in won’t really misinterpret it as you hitting on your crush. Because you’re simply being friendly.
However, make sure to follow this up with some lighthearted and light teasing. Because you teasing your crush will subtly send her signals that you’re interested in her.
Teasing women is a crucial seduction skill everyone should have if they want to become successful with women. It’s a huge part of flirting but it’s not very obvious to other people. And it will also really impress your crush, using only your words.
Next, express sincere interest in your crush. Ask her various questions about her to get to know her. But don’t ask generic questions like “Where are you from originally?” and “What do you like to do?”
Instead, ask them questions that have a deeper meaning so you can connect on an emotional level.
For example, don’t ask her “So what did you study at university?”. Instead, ask “So why did you choose to study that field? What’s exciting about it?”
Instead of asking “What do you do for work?”. Ask her “Why did you choose to work there? What do you like about the job?”
Once again, people LOVE talking about themselves and their interests. As well as their passions, values, and similar things. So when you ask deeper questions like that, you won’t have to ask yourself “How do I impress my crush with words?” anymore.
Things to tell your romantic interest to get her attention and make her interested in you
Asking your crush more thought-provoking questions is a solid strategy because everyone likes talking about themselves. And people who are around your crush at that moment won’t suspect a thing! Because you’re just being curious and friendly.
However, don’t forget to tease her playfully, or you may land yourself into the friend zone. Because if you don’t reveal your intentions to her in any way, she’ll merely consider you as a friend.
That said, there are other things to say to your crush that will spike her interest in you. Such as telling various jokes and stories. Because people like humor and listening to entertaining, intriguing, interesting, or exciting stories.
Personally, my style of seduction is to use a lot of humor and teasing. I tell various wacky, silly, ridiculous, funny and insane stories to endear people to me. And then I tease girls relentlessly and become physical with them, to spike their attraction. As well as build sexual tension between us.
If you do this, you’ll never land in the friendzone. You’ll also demonstrate your interest in your crush in a covert way. So other people around you won’t suspect a thing. And you’ll spark her interest in you as well, so she’ll want to hang out with you more.
Another GREAT way to convey interest in your crush and get her interested in you is through touch and physicality. As it’s one of the most important things in seduction.
So when you say something funny and you both laugh hard, touch her on the arm or the shoulder. Nudge her playfully when you tease her. Be physical in general and touch her as much as possible at appropriate moments.
Finally, remember to hold strong eye contact. This will really spice things up and spark attraction towards you.
Time to ask her out in an indirect way
Once you notice your crush is into you and is enjoying your company, you need to ask her out. But you need to do this not in front of other people and instead do it in an indirect way.
To do this in an indirect way so other people around you won’t mind, you need to go somewhere with her. And you can say many different things to do this.
If you’re in a group or if she’s with fellow students or co-workers, you can tell her this:
“Hey Holly, come with me for a second, I want to show you something cool. Something just for you! Don’t worry, guys, I’ll bring her back in a minute!”
Then you can beckon her to come with you, or even take her by the hand and lead her away.
The goal is to go somewhere where there are no prying eyes. Where you can talk to her freely, without anyone judging you or her.
Then use one of the direct lines I wrote earlier in the article to give her a specific compliment. Then ask her out. And chances are huge you’ll get a date with your crush!
Any excuse you can think of to get her away from the group will work.
Even saying something like “Come here for a minute, I want to tell you something important” will work fine.
There are many things you can say to your crush to get her to come with you somewhere. Just use your imagination, and you’ll do fine. As long as you don’t act weird, creepy, needy or desperate.
Do it all with a lighthearted and positive vibe and she’ll follow.
Things to avoid so you don’t scare your crush off
Now you know many of the best things to say to your crush to spark interest, attraction and even sexual tension. Remember to be yourself around your crush, if you want to build a genuine connection with her.
However, there are several things you must avoid doing. Or she won’t be interested in you.
- Don’t be too overly eager and don’t tell her you like her too soon. Unless you know she already likes you.
- Don’t stalk your crush everywhere and don’t seem desperate or needy.
- Avoid staring at your crush or looking at her at every opportunity you get. That’s just creepy.
- Don’t appear like you have nothing better to do than hang around her all the time. Go do your things and interact with her occasionally.
- D0n’t put her on a pedestal and do everything you can to impress her. No one likes a try-hard bootlicker.
- Refrain from being too easy. It’s not necessary to play hard to get, but let her know YOU HAVE STANDARDS.
As long as you keep all of this in mind, have good body language and don’t behave in any weird or creepy ways, you’ll do fine.