How to Get Any Girl You Want

So, you want to know how to get any girl that you want, or just get more pussy in general?

First of all – an important DISCLAIMER! You can’t actually get absolutely any girl that you want because – surprise surprise – that is entirely impossible! And, if you believe that you can, or that someone can show you how, you’d be incredibly naive! The simple fact of life is that no matter how awesome you become as a person – some people are still not going to like you.

The sensational and clickbaity title is meant to target a key word which a lot of men these days search for, in the futile hopes of trying to find a “Magic Pill” which will let them know how to get any girl they want. But the reality is – there is no magic pill, and anyone who tells you otherwise is being dishonest or is trying to sell you something. My goal here is to try and educate guys who think this way, and to show them how they can improve themselves and their social skills, learn certain social dynamics and about how attraction and seduction works, then help them deal with their psychological issues – so that they CAN be successful with MOST women who they meet and interact with – but definitely not all.

Phew! Now that we’ve got this out of the way – let’s get to the nitty gritty of it all!

Go and ask any random woman what kind of man she would like, and what makes a man attractive to her.

In fact, go ask this question to your sister, mom, grandma, or the cute girl next door, or your hot co-worker – or any other girl that you meet.

They will all tell you stuff like:

“Oh, he’s got to be nice. He’s got to understand me. He’s got to treat me right. He has to be there for me when I need him.” – and a lot of similar things.

Funny enough, most women will say that to you – and they will mean it, too, because when they take the time to think about it logically, they will genuinely believe that these are the types of men who they’d want to have a relationship with.

However, what they actually respond to, on a gut level of attraction, is something ENTIRELY different! And I’ll explain all of this, and why it will let you know how to get any girl who’s single and looking for a lover, below.

But first, to understand why this happens, let’s get back to what most girls tell guys about what they want in a man.

man getting any girlWomen Will Tell You They Want Nice Men Who Treat Them Well

Sure, that’s great advice for when you’re married or already in a very serious relationship – but that will do nothing to build the initial attraction which makes the woman in question want you sexually in the first place. This will do nothing to make her want you to be her LOVER, which is crucial for her to to actually want to start a serious or even casual relationship with you.

And a lot of men will fall for this trap. You’ll hear many nice guys complaining “Oh, I treat her right all the time! I’m so nice to all these girls! I want her to be happy! I want her to have nice things! And I want her to see what a great guy I am!”

And then comes the inevitable “But she always ends up in the hands of this jerk, asshole, douchebag, and not me! WHYYYYY!? I’m doing EVERYTHING for her, and she still goes to someone else!”

What they fail to realize is that they need to do all this “lovey-dovey, caring, provider” stuff later, when they’re already in the relationship, and not right off the bat!

What attracts women in the first place, are the emotions that they experiences around you. Many different emotions, of a wide spectrum, both positive, and negative ones. And, for there to be lots of emotions in your interactions, there has to be at least a little bit of drama, conflict, and other similar things.

So yeah… all I have to say regarding this is – do not take any advice regarding women from other women! Especially if you want to know how to get any girl that you find attractive.

Women will logically tell you that they want and like one thing – but when it comes to true gut level attraction that they feel towards men – girls are ANYTHING but logical. That’s because you can’t “logic” your way into someone’s pants – since attraction is not a choice and is entirely based on emotions.

Many women have no clue what they want

In fact, what I’ve noticed is that your average attractive girl has next to no idea what she actually wants from a man, except that he should treat her right. I’ve asked this question to thousands of women who I went on a date with: “What’s your ideal type of man? What does he look like and how does he behave?”

Most women will describe some cliche “Tall, handsome, well-built, confident yet nice guy who spends a lot of time with them, always listens to them, and treats them right”.

“That’s great!” – I reply, knowing that I’m NOTHING like the guy she describes, neither in looks nor personality. Then I promptly take her home that very same evening and fuck her brains out, while she moans with pleasure and forgets all about what type of guy she wanted in the first place. Go figure!

So, where did this “ideal guy” that she described to me just a while ago disappear to, all of a sudden? Why would she describe him, but then promptly forget that description and go sleep with ME – someone who’s dorky, average in looks, dresses in simple, cheap yet comfortable clothes, and is neither tall nor handsome? That “ideal guy” went completely out the window and suddenly became ENTIRELY irrelevant!

Why? Simply because she logically tried to describe her perfect guy – but then she ran into me – someone who is masculine and knows how attraction and seduction works, who can evoke various powerful emotions in her through actions and conversation. These emotions are as addicting to her as a drug, and trigger a gut level attraction response. They make her see me in an entirely different light than she’s used to seeing other men in, who tend to be dull and boring on their dates. These emotions trigger her arousal and lust, and along with my actions create lots of sexual tension and make her horny with anticipation, so that she’ll want to sleep with me the very same day – the sooner the better.

So, a girl will tell you one thing about the type of guy she wants to meet and would like to have a serious relationship with – but then she’ll turn around and sleep with a COMPLETELY different type of guy, simply because he knew how to affect her emotionally, spark attraction, create sexual tension, and genuinely have a good time with her.

How To Get Any Girl You Want? Create Strong Emotions

It’s pretty simple – if you want to learn how to get any girl – DO NOT be discouraged by the type of men that women describe as their ideal partner.

Because that’s the thing about “ideal partners” – they are a FANTASY in the woman’s mind! That guy who they describe is just their “ideal vision” of someone who they’d like to meet and “have a happy life with” – sort of a dashing prince on a white stallion who will swoop her off her feet and whisk her away to some magical happy kingdom land where they will live happily ever after, forever and ever. Isn’t that just so cute and sweet? 😉

Inside every woman, there is a little princess who just wants a happy ending.

But then a certain type of guy comes along. A guy who is secure in himself, has his shit together, and knows how attraction and seduction works. Someone who understands that inside every women, aside from that little princess, there’s also a raging slut wanting to fuck and experience pleasure – and he does not judge her for it!

A guy who understands that it’s all about the emotional investment that you create through your interaction which makes women want you sexually – and not because of external things like looks, money, status, fame, or any other bullshit that you can think of. A guy who knows what sexual tension is, how to create it, hold it, and use it to his advantage – and fuck her silly that very same evening. And then choose whether to start a casual or serious relationship with her based on the girls MERITS and VALUES, or even just leave it at that, if the whole experience ends up being unsatisfying in the end. That guy is the CHOOSER. He is authentic, he’s honest about what he wants, and he genuinely connects with women on an intellectual, physical, and, most importantly, sexual level.

So, why not be that guy? That guy knows how to get more pussy than his peers because he understands that the main currency of attraction are emotions – and that lets him know how to get pretty much any girl that he wants. He’s not necessarily malicious in his intents – but simply understands that in order to find a woman he’ll be genuinely happy with, he has to date around and experience many women, and see which will suit him the most.

In any case, knowing that women will easily go for someone who’s completely different to their imagined ideal version of “the perfect guy”, is a very liberating realization.

How Do You Create Those Strong Emotions?

There are many ways, but to begin with, you have to be authentic and unapologetic. Be open about your sexuality and don’t try to hide the fact that you like sex. Don’t be afraid to challenge women, and speak your mind because that will always create emotions during your conversations naturally.

But that’s just the tip of the iceberg, the absolute basics.

If you want to learn how to have conversations and interactions with women which are not boring and which create tons of emotions on all of your dates with women, be sure to read this:

What to do on a date with a girl to never be seen as a boring man!

And, if you want to know what makes women gravitate towards “bad boys” and run away from all the “nice guys” – and why emotions are massively important in the first place – make sure to read this:

Why do women like bad boys vs nice guys? 2023 Update

The Characteristics of a Man Who Knows How to Get Any Girl

And now that we’ve gotten the absolute basics out of the way – let me tell you some other things that will help significantly in your quest of self-development and becoming better with women.

Quality One – Leadership.

lead her on a date

By leadership, I don’t mean that you have to be a real leader who is responsible for some kind of group of people who follow you.

No – that would be completely irrelevant to learning how to get any girl.

By leadership, I simply mean that you have to know how to lead women when you’re meeting them, interacting with them, or when you are on a date.

For example, when a lot of guys meet a girl – they have no clue what they are doing. Let’s say the typical “nice guy” wants to bring a girl to a restaurant, or a movie, or whatever.

Instead of going “Hey, let’s go watch this movie! Let’s go eat at this place, they have great food!” he goes like “Oh, where would you like to go eat? What would you like to watch? Do you like this movie, or will you not like it if we go there? Where do you want to sit? What would you like to do later?” – basically, he’s  giving the entire leading of the interaction to the girl.

Why would a woman ever respect such a man?

Being able to lead a woman is simply being able to show her your world. Invite her to partake in the world that you live in – without asking her every step of the way if she’d like to do this or that, if she’d like to go here or there, or other similar questions.

Being able to lead means that you know what you like – and that you have the confidence to believe that she will like these things as well.

So, if you want to know how to get any girl, remember this: When you’re on a date with a girl – STOP ASKING QUESTIONS about what SHE wants to do. She’s there to experience YOU and YOUR life. So, just lead her on an adventure that is your world.

This means that you must have a plan of what you would like to do. And once you have a plan, lead her every step of the way through it.

Show her your world, and give her a role that you want her to play in it, and in your life. Here’s the basic gist: “Honey, I’m doing this thing, it’s awesome, it’s cool, let’s do this together because you’re part of my plan now!”

“And if you don’t want to be a part of it and join me, that’s cool too, and it’s perfectly fine, because I’m going to do this anyway, with or without you.”

Basically – this is who I am, and this is what I do, so take it or leave it because I don’t care either way!

Believe me when I say this – if you have this mindset – you will be knee deep in pussy! If you want to know how to get any girl that you go on a date with to want to sleep with you– you have to embody this leadership quality. You have to add this crucial characteristic to your personality because it commands massive respect not just from women, but from people in general.

And guess what? The majority of people don’t like to expend the effort that is necessary to lead – they want to follow someone who knows what they are doing, they want to be part of something amazing and experience new and interesting things! And, if you have a plan – and present it well enough and with a carefree attitude – people, and particularly women, will follow you gladly!

People innately want to follow – so just do them that favor and let them follow you.

Don’t be the person who just “tags along” with others – be the one who does shit. Be the one who organizes things, plans things, and invites other people to join him.

Just don’t be too bossy about it. Have the attitude of “You’re welcome to join me and share in the experience, but I’m still going to do whatever it is that I was going to do anyway, and have fun doing it with or without you. Let’s do this!”

If this is the type of vibe you put out when you’re inviting girls on a date – they will EAGERLY accept.

Then, all you have to do on those dates is create a lot of various emotions, eventually ramp up the sexual tension – and you’re good to go! THAT is how you can get any girl. That is exactly how to get any girl that you find attractive and go on a date with to want to sleep with you.

Invite them to experience a your world with you, which is new to them – and lead them through it – and then reap the benefits and the awesome rewards – a life of sexual abundance with women.

Quality Two – Authenticity.

I’ve already mentioned this above – but I want to make sure that you understand what authenticity actually is.

Authentic – not false; representing one’s true nature or beliefs, true to oneself or to the person identified.

Authenticity When you don’t pretend to like things that you don’t like, or feign interest in things that are not interesting to you, just to try to impress other people.

Simply put, when you are authentic and you don’t try to kiss ass and impress other people – you will always NATURALLY create various positive and negative emotions in ALL of your interactions with women, and with people in general.

Here’s an example – When a girl you’re talking to says she loves Tailor Swift, but you don’t like her music and think it’s shit.

You simply say “Nah, I think Tailor Swift’s music is shit!” because that is what you honestly think about this particular thing.

The girl’s reaction? She’s most likely going to have a negative one because you didn’t like the thing that she liked. But it does not matter the least bit because that reaction is going to elicit a genuine emotion from her – no matter if it’s disappointment, sadness, shock, or whatever. She will feel that emotion, and it will just be one of MANY that she will experience with you on your date.

The most important thing is that she actually DOES experience various emotions when interacting with you, and they all range from good and pleasant ones, to neutral, to bad ones. That collection of emotions will be her experience of you as a person. And despite there being bad ones present in that experience of you – she will RESPECT you because you stood up for yourself, didn’t try to impress her – and told her honestly what you think.

By the end of the evening, that collection of all the many different emotions she experienced with you is the thing which will make her more attracted to you.

So, when you are authentic – people who interact with you will naturally feel a wide range of emotions in your presence – from pleasant ones to bad ones. And that is INFINITELY more better than having a bland and BORING date, where she feels nothing at all, or just “nice”, “non-threatening”, and “timid” emotions of a single spectrum!

THAT is how to get any girl that you want to sleep with you – by being an authentic man!

Quality Three – Humor!

how to get more pussy with humor

This is a huge one! In fact, it’s one of the best ways to showcase your personality to its fullest, and exactly the thing which makes your looks completely and utterly irrelevant, all while making other people fall in love with your personality.

Because time and time again – and I’ve seen this from personal experiences from thousands of dates, and the experience of people who I teach about attraction and seduction – if you can make a girl genuinely laugh with joy whenever you want to or feel like it – she’s yours!

That is also how to get any girl if you are lacking in looks, or many other qualities. THAT is how an “Average Joe” can get an absolute stunner of a woman who every guy desperately wants!

Humor is the great equalizer because humor can help you shove any girl through a roller-coaster of various emotions – both good, neutral, and bad ones – but with a funny twist that you can both enjoy and laugh at!

If you can make jokes at her expense, it shows that you don’t take her or the date very seriously, that you can afford to take risks with her by not being afraid to ruffle her feathers – thereby automatically not ever putting her on a pedestal. You show that you’re not afraid to “lose her” – probably because, she’ll think, that you already have a lot of other women in your life (even though you may not). And, as we all know, abundance with women (pre-selection) is incredibly attractive.

Also, if you can make jokes at your own expense – you show that you don’t take yourself too seriously as well. It simply shows that you’re a non-judgmental dude who’s not above having some fun. That is MASSIVELY attractive. That is another key to getting any girl who you want!

In other words – fun and humor makes you an attractive, interesting, and exciting guy who other people want to hang out with.

Quality Four – Being Non-Judgmental

The thing about judging other people – it shows that you are an insecure person yourself.

So, when it comes to learning how to get any girl that you go on a date with to want to jump your bones – learning how to become a non-judgmental person is absolutely necessary!

I’m not going to explain this all here because I have already written a massive and very in-depth explanation on Being Non-Judgmental, which is Lesson Ten in my Inner Game Course, which I currently provide for FREE if you sign up for MAN – My Awesome Newsletter! (Gotta work on those acronyms lol)

I’ve sure you’ve already seen the sign-up form floating around this page somewhere.

Be sure to sign-up for it right now if you have problems with women because it includes 15 Full Lessons which will help you deal with various insecurities and self-esteem issues and will bring your Inner Game to the next level. Most men have psychological problems which hold them back from greatness – so make sure to deal with yours!

Also, being non-judgmental when it comes to sex is one of the most important things if you want to get laid with a ton of different girls – and it’s the biggest single quality which lets you have lots of casual one night stands with many women.

It is required reading if you want to learn how to get any girl who gives you her number and meets you later for a date. Because let’s face it – getting any girl that you want is every man’s dream.

Quality Five – Passions

Fact is, passionate people are ATTRACTIVE.

And it does not even matter what your passion is – it can be absolutely anything, as long as you’re actually passionate about SOMETHING.

It shows that you have fire under your ass, that you get up every day to do something, that you are not a lazy bum with no goals or ambitions in life who just sits at home and watches TV or plays Video Games all day while jerking off to progressively weirder porn. No quality woman would want to be with a man like that, who has zero passions in life and no purpose.

So, no matter who you are and what you do, and what passions you have – even if they’re something nerdy like stamp collecting or running around catching pokemons, or playing World of Warcraft, or crafting medieval gear for your LARPing events. As long as you have ANY passion and can talk about it PASSIONATELY to other people, actually feeling the emotions while you are talking and describing them in an engaging way – you’ll be that much more attractive than if you had none.

Bonus Quality – Being Unapologetic About Your Sexuality

This is another very important thing in learning how to get any girl that you find attractive.

I find that being unapologetic about your sexuality is one of the main characteristics which separate guys who only get laid occasionally, from men who are knee-deep in pussy.

So, allow me to explain, as quickly as I can. This may get a bit deep:

You are who you are in life, and you live it to the best of your ability. No one has a manual on life, and everyone is improvising as they go along.

As a person, you have your own set of core values, beliefs, mindsets, and a certain worldview. They may not be perfect, but they are YOUR values, and you live your life according to them, hopefully.

And that is the crucial point to understand here. You may not be perfect as a person, but you have to be perfectly fine with the way you are – and you should never apologize to anyone about how you live your life, as long as you live up to your OWN values and ideals that you have set for yourself!

As a man who lives with a purpose, you have to be okay with yourself as a person, and if you make a mistake, you should have no problem ADMITTING it, and owning up to it. That’s because everyone makes mistakes – and no one is perfect.

It’s all about understanding that no matter who you are, no matter what you do, and no matter what you have going on in your life – SOME PEOPLE ARE JUST NOT GOING TO LIKE YOU. Which means that apologizing for the way that you live your life is a complete waste of your time and energy, and trying to be relatable to everyone and be liked by everyone is inherently a fool’s errand – it can never be done, ever, by anyone.

Now comes the sexuality part:

You like sex, don’t you? You find girls physically attractive, and when you see them, your dick gets hard, and you want to fuck them, don’t you?

And you also like to masturbate occasionally, don’t you?

Well, would you ever talk about these things freely and admit it to women who you meet and interact with?

WHY NOT!? Are you ASHAMED of your sexuality? Or maybe you’re afraid of other people knowing that you are a sexual person?

Well, being unapologetic is being able to understand that we’re all human – and that we all have sexual urges. Accept the fact that you will always have these natural urges, stop repressing them, and then feel completely comfortable with talking about your sexuality and sex in general with anyone that you meet, particularly and especially women. Show them that you own your sexuality, that you are completely non-judgmental, and just watch the magic unfold.

You are born to eventually have sex – that is LITERALLY your only biological goal as a human animal – to fuck and pass on your genes. What is the point of hiding it or being ashamed of it?

This is what sets bad boys apart from “nice guys” and pussies who are afraid of “revealing” the fact that they are sexual beings.

Well, let me tell you something right now – you are not “revealing” JACK SHIT – everyone already knows that you’re a guy, that you have a penis – and that guys LIKE TO FUCK WOMEN WITH IT! And women understand this because they LIKE TO FUCK MEN and crave dick inside them.

But not just any dick – only a dick with a purpose – and one that stands proud, and not fucking cowers behind doubt and shame regarding their biological purpose.

So, man the fuck up, stop being a little bitch pussy wuss, and OWN UP TO YOUR SEXUALITY. Even better, be unapologetic about your sexuality!

If you don’t – then it’s no wonder why you suck with women – because how are you even supposed to make a girl want you sexually if you’re afraid of letting her know that you want to fuck her?

If you’re afraid of girls finding out that you want to fuck them – then you are being incredibly inauthentic and disingenuous!

Next time you hold eye contact with a girl who’s into you – don’t look away. Imagine fucking her right then and there, and how she’d look while sucking your dick, right there on the spot. Then look her up and down, at her breasts, crotch, and feel that hornyness arise, feel your dick swell – smile knowingly at her with that killer look – and she’ll notice it and ask you “What are you thinking about?” or whatever. Just reply with “Let’s go somewhere private, and I’ll show you” and fucking mean it. She’ll melt.

It’s basically about having the mindset of “Why yes, I do want to fuck your brains out, and no there’s nothing wrong with that- In fact, you should probably take my intentions as a compliment”. In fact, this is one of the most powerful compliments a woman can ever receive regarding her physical appearance.

But then again, you have to have your shit together to be able to pull this off. Not everyone does, but pretty much anyone can learn.

One of the reasons women find the sexuality of “nice guys” creepy, is that when they finally manage to muster up the courage to try they are telegraphing to the woman that they feel that what they are doing is dirty, that they feel guilty about doing it. Because they’re afraid or even ashamed of their sexual urges.

TL;DR – Want to know how to get more pussy? STOP BEING A PUSSY – because you have a dick, and not a vagina. Don’t try to hide it – everyone already knows.

Let’s end this on a lighter note.

Success with women

That’s enough making you self-conscious about your inadequacies as a man.

I’m not doing this to hurt your feelings – I’m just doing this so that you wake up from your slumber and become the man you always wanted to be.

So, simply trust in yourself and your faculties that whatever is going to happen to you – you’ll do fine.

Or, if you can’t do that, at least try to believe that you are going to be fine no matter what!

That’s more than most men do – and this mindset alone will let you stand a full head above every “nice guy” that comes along.

In the end, it’s all about developing your personality and building those massively attractive character traits and qualities that successful men have, into yourself.

It’s all about taking you – and becoming You 2.0 – a better, more attractive, and secure version of yourself who has his shit together – who is not afraid to live life, or of other people.

Because let’s face it – what kind of a man are you if you’re afraid of talking to women and showing who you really are to them? You need to get this handled!

In any case, I’m here to help you understand what it takes to be successful with women – so make sure to read my other blog posts because they contain massively beneficial information to guys who are terrible with girls.

And, when you get your inner game in order and want to learn all of the practical stuff that you need to do on dates to get laid consistently and start as many casual or serious relationships as you want – go to

If you do all that, then you’ll never have to ask questions like “How to get any girl?” and “How to get more pussy”, ever again!

Because knowing how to get any girl is just half the battle – you also have to ACT on that knowledge! And in order to act, you must get your shit together first!


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Andrius Saulis has over 15 years of extensive hands-on experience and expertise in the field of Dating, Seduction, Relationships and Social Dynamics. He's helping men all around the world get rid of their insecurities, regain their high self-esteem and confidence, and become successful with women. He teaches men how to attract and seduce women not through manipulative tactics, but by being their genuine, authentic and charming selves, while exuding a flirty, confident and sexy vibe that women can't get enough of. Learn how to have a flawless first date with The Saulis Dating Guide to get as many serious or casual relationships as you want.

One Comment

  1. April 12, 2018

    I agree with the fact that it is impossible to get any girl. First of all, it is a very difficult job to impress a girl, you may make a thousand efforts but still be single. So, the thought of getting any girl shouldn’t even be the last thought coming in your mind. This article can help you to understand girls better and know what they want. It can get the one girl you are looking for and not ”any girl”.

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