This article will explain how to attract women and then seduce them when you’re on your first date.
A lot of guys don’t know what has to happen on the first date so that girls start to like you and want to sleep with you in the end.
They think that attracting women and seducing girls requires good looks, money, status, or a ton of other superficial and irrelevant things.
While all those things are nice bonuses and make for a great first impression, they ultimately don’t matter when it comes to seducing women and girls of any caliber.
Why is that?
Because no matter how rich or good-looking you are – if you don’t know how to spike massive attraction by flirting and teasing, then create a comfortable and deep connection and rapport with a girl, and then build a strong sexual and romantic tension – you’re not going to get anywhere.
At worst, the girls will end up being bored and won’t sleep with you. At best, you’ll only end up sleeping with insecure and shallow women.
Table of Contents
- 1 The main steps of How To Attract Women and Seduce the Girls you Want
- 1.1 1 – Getting your shit together as a person.
- 1.2 Women simply don’t like guys who don’t have their shit together.
- 1.3 2 – Spiking Emotions and Creating Attraction
- 1.4 3 – Creating a deep connection with women
- 1.5 If you want to learn how to attract women and then seduce them – read the following very carefully:
- 1.6 4 – Creating Strong Sexual Tension for Seducing Girls
- 2 Final Fifth Step – Enjoy Yourself
The main steps of How To Attract Women and Seduce the Girls you Want
Consistently attracting and seducing girls of any caliber on dates requires mastery of the following things:
1 – Getting your shit together as a person.
This is by far the most important step. It’s about improving yourself both physically and mentally up to the point where you’re comfortable in your own skin, where you’re not nervous when talking to girls, where you can rely on your personality, sense of humor, and wit to never run out of things to say, and so on and so forth.
- It means that you have to get rid of most of your insecurities and self-esteem issues; anxiety, fear of rejection, nervousness, self-doubt, shyness, lack of boundaries, etc.
- It also requires that you get your body language, eye contact, tone of voice, posture, and other external things in order.
- Finally, it requires that you change a couple of mindsets. Then remove negative and limiting core beliefs while creating new and powerful ones, and lastly, acquire several attractive character traits.
Sounds complicated? You’re not wrong! That’s because success with women requires time and effort, and nothing in life that’s worth having comes easy!
If you’re fat – go work out.
If you’re afraid – learn how to deal with it.
If you smell – get used to showering regularly.
If you have no sense of style – learn about it from reliable sources, girls, gay friends, whatever it takes.
Any and all problems; if you have a problem – there’s a solution.
If you’re ugly, have a small dick, were born in the “wrong” country or with a different skin color – or a myriad of other unfortunate shortcomings – accept it as something you can’t control and focus on the things you CAN change.
Again, learning how to attract women and then seduce them on dates hangs on this one crucial point. If you don’t improve your mind and body – you’ll always remain behind the people who do.
They’ll get to have all the fun, and you’ll just sit home jerking off!
Women simply don’t like guys who don’t have their shit together.
If you’re too lazy to work on all of that – then have fun being a lonely loser.
Did that get you angry, offend you or rile you up? GOOD! Now go and do something about it! Take action, get of your ass and go IMPROVE YOURSELF!
How do you fix all this?
There are countless resources on the internet about how to attract women and get those things handled.
I also offer both free and paid services to fix these things.
To handle your Inner Game Issues – sign up for my Free Inner Game Newsletter where you’ll get a full course on how to deal with any deep-rooted psychological issues. Don’t worry, I won’t spam you with sales offers.
For external problems and tons of other things – I show you how to fix them in my book – but there are tons of other resources.
Just Google your problems – we live in the age of information.
It’s all about finding the right teachers and the right material. Alone, it may take you many years. With help, you can streamline your learning process from years to weeks, or even days, if you’re smart enough.
2 – Spiking Emotions and Creating Attraction
When you’ve got the first part handled – this is where your social and seduction skills come in.
A lot of people start focusing on this part at first – completely neglecting the most important and primary part where you get your shit together and improve as a person.
That’s like learning to run before you learn how to walk.
It’s a huge core problem with the whole PUA community, and one of the main reasons why tons of guys fail before they even start.
They think they can learn techniques, routines, lines, and other such stuff of attracting women, without working on themselves first.
And then they get discouraged when those things don’t work.
Why don’t they work? Because you’re not CONGRUENT with any of those lines and routines. Those lines are for someone who’s got their shit together – not someone who can’t even put his arm around a girl’s shoulder without shitting in his pants!
Classic pick-up advice focuses on teaching men how to appear as an attractive man, instead of how to actually become an attractive man.
Spiking strong emotions which create massive attraction require that you learn how to Flirt, and especially Tease.
When it comes to attracting and seducing girls, if you don’t know how to tease a girl when you’re talking to her – the whole interaction won’t be memorable for her, unless you do something else that’s extraordinary and unforgettable.
Personally, I tease and flirt with girls during all of my first dates – and I consistently get laid with nearly all of the girls I go out with.
This is the most important thing when it comes to technique! However, it highly depends on your personality and sense of humor – which is why it’s important to get your shit together first!
Learn more about it and how to attract women at: How to Tease a Girl and Why Teasing on Dates is Massively Important!
To learn why spiking emotions is important for seducing and attracting women – read this: Why do women like bad boys and don’t respect nice guys?
Seriously, don’t just gloss this over. Read those two articles and you’ll understand the importance of this step. It will take you around 15 minutes but it can massively impact your life and success with women.
And once you’re done reading those two – here’s one of my secret weapons – a technique that I make sure to use every single time: Why Role-Playing on dates is Amazing!
3 – Creating a deep connection with women
This is another often overlooked yet massively important point when learning how to attract women!
Having the ability to spark strong emotions on dates is a wonderful thing to master – but if you solely rely on it and neglect to connect with the girl – you’re not going to get anywhere, except maybe fuck certain girls who are just out to get laid or don’t care about connection, comfort, and trust.
However, you most certainly won’t be able to get an amazing girlfriend, if you can’t even connect with her.
Why is that?
Because relationships require SUBSTANCE.
They require something to hold them up. Something solid, reliable, palpable. That something is connection.
Furthermore, connection builds true comfort and trust – and those things are incredibly important if you want to sleep with women who also have their shit together – the women of highest caliber – the solid 10s in both looks and personality.
Consistently attracting and seducing the most amazing women and creating a healthy relationship with them requires that you show, for example, vulnerability.
And that’s another scary word for a lot of guys in the pickup community – Vulnerability.
Most guys associate this word with being a pussy. But they couldn’t be further from the truth!
If you want to learn how to attract women and then seduce them – read the following very carefully:
You should never mistake vulnerability with weakness – it’s actually one of the most attractive and masculine traits a person can show!
The simplest definition of being vulnerable, taken straight from Wikipedia, is to show yourself to others completely and utterly without holding back for fear of rejection or judgment.
You present yourself just the way you are: with all your strengths and weaknesses bared for the world to see.
I don’t have to tell you how attractive girls find that!
There’s a great quote about this from Brené Brown’s book on vulnerability and its influencing effect on others:
“We love seeing raw truth and openness in other people, but we’re afraid to let them see it in us. Here’s the crux of the struggle: I want to experience your vulnerability, but I don’t want to be vulnerable. Vulnerability is courage in you and inadequacy in me.”
It’s pretty deep shit, and I explain this concept in greater depth in my book.
That’s right – my book’s focus is not only to master the ability to get laid with most girls that you go on a date with and how to attract women. It’s also to create a healthy, strong, and long-lasting relationship with a solid 10 – once you successfully seduce her and fuck her six ways from Sunday.
And vulnerability is just one cog in the machine – there are several things that make up a solid relationship. Things like compatibility, trust, mutual respect and understanding, etc.
In any case…
If you don’t build a deep connection when you’re on a date with a girl and only master teasing and flirting – you’ll certainly have the ability to sleep with a lot of women.
But those women won’t have the best personalities and are going to be themselves wracked with tons of insecurities.
This article will explain a bit more about connection and why it’s important for seducing girls on dates: First date questions – What to ask her and talk about on first dates?
4 – Creating Strong Sexual Tension for Seducing Girls
Now you know how to attract girls and the women that you’re interested in, but how do you seduce them so that they actually want to jump your bones?
After you spike tons of emotions and connect with the girl on a deeper level – she’s yours for the taking. She already likes you and thinks that you’re great. She’s also invested in you by now.
But attraction alone is not enough. Without creating strong sexual tension – you may as well just have a nice new friend. If you do it wrong or fail to do it at all, you may end up in the friend-zone-land!
So how do you avoid this pitfall?
Easy – you get sexual. You create a strong romantic and sexual vibe so that the girl gets very aroused and horny around you.
I haven’t yet written an article on this blog about sexual tension that I can link to – but I’ll get to that very soon and edit this section.
But the gist of it is that you get close to her and get more intimate.
You do that by adjusting your body language to a more sexual and sensual one. You also start talking with her about sexual topics and put the idea of sex into her mind. By the Law of State Transference, she’ll start feeling all of it and associate sex with you, becoming aroused and eventually horny.
And then you can just choose to take her to the venue’s bathroom, to your car, or take her home. She’ll want it herself by that point.
In PUA circles – it’s called raising her buying temperature.
However, most “pick up gurus” rely on techniques that create sexual tension that only lasts a short time – so you often have to grab that window of opportunity and pounce on it, so to speak, to sleep with the girl.
The techniques I show create solid, long-lasting and deep arousal that lasts the whole evening, and even the whole relationship if you work hard enough. I show you how to become a sexually assertive, aggressive, and confident guy who can choose to sleep with his girlfriend or fuckbuddy whenever he wants because she will always get aroused by you and your presence, your touch, etc.
You then assign certain triggers associated with your touch and certain words which she’ll associate with arousal. And you can get her aroused pretty much anywhere – even in situations where she’s meeting her parents with you – if you’re evil enough 😉
It’s basic NLP which anyone can learn with a little bit of practice.
You get to control the sex in the relationship – not the girl.
And isn’t that a problem in most relationships right now? Even though many guys get a girlfriend – they are still sex-starved and have to beg her for sex.
No more such bullshit – make her beg YOU for it instead!
Final Fifth Step – Enjoy Yourself
That’s right – once you master the previous 4 steps – you can just sit back and enjoy the fruits of your labor.
You won’t have to try and figure out how to attract women and how to seduce the girls that you like anymore – because you’ll get it handled once and for all.
It’s not about “manipulating the girl into sleeping with you”. It’s about developing yourself into an awesome guy who’s naturally attractive to women, so that they want to sleep with you THEMSELVES.
Seduction is not about “getting” girls, but about encouraging them to always want to bang you themselves.
That’s because women are not objects, trophies, or things that you can “get”.
They are people, just like you and me, who eat, sleep, shit, breathe, fart, and fuck – and enjoy it. Who are individuals with their own wants, needs, ideals, values, likes, dislikes, and so on and so forth, just like you and me. Who value their time just as much as you value yours!
When you realize all of this, attracting and seducing girls and women of any caliber will be easy for you. Treating women like people is one of the keys of how to attract them.
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It’s Time to Get Off Your Ass and Act!
It took me nearly 10 years to master this – but that’s including around 6 years of traveling around the world and sleeping with hundreds upon hundreds of women, testing everything out and making sure that it works. And then successfully teaching several people to do the exact same thing.
But with proper guidance, you can do it in weeks.
How many weeks? Well, that depends entirely on you, your work-ethic, will, talents, smarts, and drive to succeed. But boy is it worth it!
Wait, what – do several weeks sound like too long and too much work?
Then enjoy jerking off alone each evening.
If you think you can find a magic pill, potion, spell, bandage, or any such bullshit that will instantly turn you into a chick magnet who’s able to get any girl in the world – be my guest and keep looking.
You’re delusional at best, and a lazy fuck at worst.
If you can’t even commit to spending several weeks to learning and mastering the core things that you need to become successful with women, to have the ability to attract and seduce the majority of single girls that you go on a date with – then you’ll never get this thing handled.
Granted, some naturally gifted people can do it in days – and I had several students who did that.
But the majority of men will have to spend a pretty significant amount of time and effort if they want to learn how to attract women of the best caliber consistently, and then seduce them and choose to build casual or serious relationships with them at will.
And guess what – living a life of success and abundance with women is FUCKING AMAZING!
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Women, in essence, are attracted to confident men who are secure with themselves, know and go for what they want, and do not let the opinions of others faze them.
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I’d also recommend stuff by RSDMax. He knows what he’s doing, his stuff is life-changing and similar to mine, and I can easily endorse his work – even though we haven’t spoken personally and I’m not affiliated with him in any way whatsoever. But it costs around 900$… so yeah… not for everyone.
Also, what are your personal sticking points when it comes to learning how to attract women and seduce the girls that you want? Which part of mastery with women do you find to be the most difficult for you? Any thoughts, issues, ideas, and experiences?
Write about them down in the comments below and let’s discuss!
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