Today I’ll tell you about a neat little trick to start loving yourself more, increase self-respect and improve self-love.
This exercise and habit to combat self-loathing and to start loving yourself more is very simple yet extremely effective. Even though it takes less than 30 seconds.
It’s for people who don’t like themselves or even hate themselves. And especially those who have negative self-talk and judge themselves harshly.
The exercise deals with self-compassion and is a must for people who want to improve their self-esteem.
Thing is, it’s not that difficult to encourage other people. Especially someone close to us or who we like. But when it comes to ourselves, we don’t really do it with the same kind of enthusiasm.
Not many people take the time to be their own cheerleaders. And not many people understand the benefits of being compassionate towards THEMSELVES.
However, in order to be successful with women – which is what this blog is all about – one of your biggest priorities must always be to work on your self-esteem, so you start liking yourself more. Which is what the following exercise is all about.
Because the more you like yourself, the more other people will like you.
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Quick Practical Exercise To Increase Your Self-Love And Self-Respect
The exercise is very simple to do and takes extremely little effort. Which is why absolutely anyone can do it! (provided you have arms lol)
Each morning, when you wake up and brush your teeth or go through your morning routine – take a moment to look at yourself in the mirror. Look into your own eyes and really take a moment to see the person you are.
Once you’re done looking at yourself, raise your hand and high-five yourself in the mirror.
You don’t have to say anything while doing this. You don’t even have to smile.
But this little action, when turned into a daily habit, will transform your life. Because it signifies your self-acceptance and self-love of yourself, to yourself.
And it’s proven to work.
Why does high-fiving yourself work so well?
This exercise works extremely well to increase self-respect and self-love.
Because no matter who you are, your brain and your neural pathways automatically associate this action with liking the person you do it with. And as it just happens to be, since you’re doing it with yourself in the mirror – that person becomes you!
Your brain releases the exact same hormones and makes the exact same connections as if you’ve done it with another person who you like and respect.
It’s a very simple act that demonstrates genuine self-love to yourself. And it works even if you don’t believe this, because your brain does. And that’s all it takes for it to work.
I’ve learned this exercise from the book the high 5 habit. And tried it myself and had many of my clients try it. It’s pretty amazing.
The book goes really deep into the science of it all because they’ve done a lot of research to study this phenomena. But that’s beyond the scope of this article.
Why do you need to do it to love yourself more?
Because if you can’t fundamentally look at yourself in the mirror and authentically see a human being looking back at you that you respect, encourage, like and cheer for, then you won’t have a happy life.
And the sad thing is, the average person these days cannot.
When the average person looks at themselves in the mirror, they’re either disgusted by, disappointed in, or disrespectful of the person they see looking back at them.
That’s because the average person has low self-esteem. Which has a negative effect on how they perceive themselves. Not to mention every little thing they do in life.
But you don’t have to take my word for it – the research on self-esteem and all its effects on people is pretty overwhelming. Just like the research on self-compassion is. So I’m just explaining long-established concepts and practices that work.
What are the benefits of a self-high-five?
When you do this exercise and make it into a habit, after a few weeks you’ll be happier, healthier, more energetic and more confident in yourself.
What’s more, you’ll get an instant hit of dopamine – the chemical that makes you feel good and elevates your mood. So it’s a pretty good way to give yourself a leg-up if you’re depressed, anxious, or having trouble with your mood in general. It’s like a mini-pep-talk just without any words.
Your brain doesn’t really care if you do this with someone else or with yourself. You still get the benefit of elevating your mood and overall happiness levels. And since you’re always available even when there are no friends around, it’s a great way to help with loneliness and to stop moping about.
Another benefit of this practice is that it lowers stress. Your cortisol levels will decrease by doing this simple act because you will signal to your body that you’re safe and happy at that moment.
But the best thing it does is it disrupts your habit of self-criticism and self-rejection. Because of all the positive things your brain’s programming associates with the action of the high-five. So it actually improves your relationship with yourself.
It really is that powerful and I highly suggest you start doing it as soon as possible.
The trick, however, is to COMMIT to doing it for at least five days. But I suggest a whole month, so you make this into a habit.
Try it for yourself – you have nothing to lose but 30 seconds a day. And it’s absolutely free!
We’ve all heard of the saying “There’s no quick fix, no magic bullet.” But this is something that actually comes very close to that.